on worry.

a friend of mine (and not Ryan and Ashley, yes it's true, women are becoming pregnant left right and center in my life right now!) just announced that they're pregnant and the first additional piece of information was that she's worried. They're about 6 weeks along I think, and are worried since they're not "out of the woods" in relation to the higher chance of miscarriage in the first trimester. I can imagine her worry and relate to it which is the point of this post.

Worry. Is it a woman thing? A human thing? A beatable thing?

I'm not pregnant but I have heard of so many couples recently who are. For some unknown reason it makes me worried we won't become pregnant, even when there's no evidence to support that (heck, we are officially "trying" for the first time as we speak!). My friend is pregnant but is worried of a miscarriage. Even when one obstacle is overcome (conception) another looms.

In addition I have another friend who has experienced the tragic death of a child and has just reached the due date for her second child. I can only imagine the worry that was present for all 9 months even when you're "out of the woods". But will her worry disappear when her baby is born healthy? Will our worries ever disappear?

Other friends are moms and they worry all the time. At a young age it's about health, development. As they age it becomes about school, friends, hopes and dreams. Can a mom ever not worry? Can a woman ever not worry? I want to say yes. I want the verses I found today in God's Word to be my yes while I'm worried about conceiving, carrying, and caring for child. But I don't know if it's a decision to make today forever, I think it's a daily choice to trust God with what you can't control and know that what He has for me if best, because it's His, not because it's my perfect plan.

Proverbs 12:25
Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down,but a good word makes him glad

Matthew 6:25-30

"Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life? And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith?

1 comment:

  1. Worry that takes control of you is not good. But I think there's a "healthy" worry that is good - perhaps better to call it "concern" instead of "worry". I think I've experienced (in my short couple of years as a Mom) both healthy AND unhealthy worry/concern. I think when you lack any sort of worry/concern then I wonder what that says about your ability to think into the future as well as your love for your child. Just a few thoughts that this entry made me reflect on.
    Good to think through this before kids for sure!