"Birthdays may be difficult for me."
"I want you to take the initiative in opening conversations about my birth family."
"When I act out my fears in obnoxious ways, please hang in there with me."
"I am afraid you will abandon me."
and so on...
A friend recommended the book "20 Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew" and the title alone has sold me. I know so few families who have adopted. Only a couple well enough to ask them about their experiences. And even then, only one who has adopted out of Family and Children's Services (in Ontario, or in Quebec, Banque Mixte). That's not a large pool of resources to draw on when embarking on a new and scary experience. Excited to read this!