Brad and I sat down the other night to talk about some logistics. It wasn't the easiest conversation, but it was needed. Needed to move forward and make sure we're on the same page.
Here's the ideal:
We welcome an adopted child or an adopted sibling set into our home in April 2014.
About 2 years from now. Meaning, at the end of the summer, we'll start the adoption process. All three or four kids share a room, that's the only way. We'd make it an awesome kids cave, with two bunk beds, lots of toys, and a closet packed to the brim with clothes. It would be crazy, but it would work.
Here are the concerns:
We're a young family.
We already have two kids.
We live in a 2 bedroom house.
Those might be factors that limit our adoption hopes.
It worries me and frustrated me that something as small as 1 bedroom may inhibit our adoption plans. We just bought this house and can't move for a number of years. If we had 1 or 2 more kids biologically, they'd all share a room, and no one would say "Boo", but with adoption, the hard part is that you don't decide everything. Others have a say in things like discipline and the living space for the child. That makes sense and I support it, guidelines are the best way to make sure these children are in safe and loving homes, but it's hard.
Anyway, that's our plans and hopes as well as our fears and potential limitations!
Would love your prayers and advice if you've gone down this road before :)
Here's the ideal:
We welcome an adopted child or an adopted sibling set into our home in April 2014.
About 2 years from now. Meaning, at the end of the summer, we'll start the adoption process. All three or four kids share a room, that's the only way. We'd make it an awesome kids cave, with two bunk beds, lots of toys, and a closet packed to the brim with clothes. It would be crazy, but it would work.
Here are the concerns:
We're a young family.
We already have two kids.
We live in a 2 bedroom house.
Those might be factors that limit our adoption hopes.
It worries me and frustrated me that something as small as 1 bedroom may inhibit our adoption plans. We just bought this house and can't move for a number of years. If we had 1 or 2 more kids biologically, they'd all share a room, and no one would say "Boo", but with adoption, the hard part is that you don't decide everything. Others have a say in things like discipline and the living space for the child. That makes sense and I support it, guidelines are the best way to make sure these children are in safe and loving homes, but it's hard.
Anyway, that's our plans and hopes as well as our fears and potential limitations!
Would love your prayers and advice if you've gone down this road before :)
I have no advice, but just wanted to say, thanks for the fresh perspective! We live in a 3 bedroom house and are hoping to have 4 kids, and with most people I know having more bedrooms than they do kids, I sometimes get a little bitter. It's people like you, and reading stories about huge families with regular houses that bring me back around to the great things that can happen when kids live in close proximity to each other.
ReplyDeleteHopefully you'll find somebody in this adoption process that can see the potential benefits too!
Sending prayers your way :)
Thank you!!
DeleteI really appreciate your encouragement :)
that sounds like a great timeline!! wahhoo!! :) I'm excited for you!!
ReplyDeleteLove that you're not limiting the number of kids you have to the number of bedrooms you have. you can make it work, I just hope that "they" let you. whoever that is.
I personally think sharing bedrooms is a great way to grow character in children and teach them lessons that they otherwise would never have to learn.
and you will for sure have an amazing kids room!!
thanks Bri! I don't know if "they" have limitations on black and white things like # of bedrooms, praying there aren't! I agree, I always learned a lot and had fun sharing a room with my sister and then my university roomate.
DeleteThere are a lot of things to consider when having kids, and finances, I believe, should play SOME role (if only a small role), but 4 kids in one large room is far from impossible and I believe we have enough room in our hearts and home for that :D